The High conflict Couple

Author: Alan E. Fruzzetti Ph. D.
ISBN: 9781458746122
Release Date: 2009-12
Genre: Family & Relationships

You hear and read a lot about ways to improve your relationship. But if you've tried these without much success, you're not alone. Many highly reactive couples-pairs that are quick to argue, anger, and blame-need more than just the run-of-the-mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love. When destructive emotions are at the heart of problems in your relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it. If you're part of a 'high-conflict' couple, you need to get control of your emotions first, to stop making things worse, and only then work on building a better relationship. The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.

The High conflict Couple

Author: Alan E. Fruzzetti
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated
ISBN: 157224450X
Release Date: 2006
Genre: Family & Relationships

In this book, a noted expert in the use of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) in couples' therapy adapts a powerful set of emotion regulation tools into techniques for addressing relationship issues.

The Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder

Author: Alan Fruzzetti
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated
ISBN: 1608820408
Release Date: 2012-03
Genre: Psychology

A psychology professor and expert in dialectical behavior therapy offers help to family members having difficulty interacting with someone suffering from borderline personality disorder by developing emotion regulation skills and learning how to draw personal boundaries. Original.

Calming the Emotional Storm

Author: Sheri Van Dijk
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781608820887
Release Date: 2012-03-01
Genre: Self-Help

When you have difficulties managing your emotions, it can feel like you’re losing control of your whole life. Anger, hurt, grief, worry, and other intense feelings can be overwhelming, and how you react to these emotions can impact your ability to maintain relationships, succeed at work, or even think straight! If you find it difficult to understand, express, and process intense emotions—and most of us do—this book is for you. Calming the Emotional Storm is your guide to coping with difficult emotions calmly and responsibly by using powerful skills from dialectical behavior therapy. This method combines cognitive behavioral techniques with mindfulness practices to change the way you respond to stressful situations. By practicing these skills, you can stop needless emotional suffering and develop the inner resilience that will help you weather any emotional storm. This book will teach you how to: • Establish a balanced life for an everyday sense of well-being • Let go of unwanted worries and fears • Become better at accepting yourself and others • Work through a crisis without letting emotions take over

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook

Author: Matthew McKay
ISBN: 9781458768612
Release Date: 2010-04-15
Genre: Body, Mind & Spirit

By a distinguished team of authors, this workbook offers readers unprecedented access to the core skills of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), formerly available only through complicated professional books and a small handful of topical workbooks. These straightforward, step-by-step exercises will bring DBT core skills to thousands who need it....

Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder

Author: Valerie Porr, M.A.
Publisher: Oxford University Press
ISBN: 0199752508
Release Date: 2010-07-30
Genre: Psychology

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is characterized by unstable moods, negative self-image, dangerous impulsivity, and tumultuous relationships. Many people with BPD excel in academics and careers while revealing erratic, self-destructive, and sometimes violent behavior only to those with whom they are intimate. Others have trouble simply holding down a job or staying in school. Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder is a compassionate and informative guide to understanding this profoundly unsettling--and widely misunderstood--mental illness, believed to affect approximately 6% of the general population. Rather than viewing people with BPD as manipulative opponents in a bitter struggle, or pitying them as emotional invalids, Valerie Porr cites cutting-edge science to show that BPD is a true neurobiological disorder and not, as many come to believe, a character flaw or the result of bad parenting. Porr then clearly and accessibly explains what BPD is, which therapies have proven effective, and how to rise above the weighty stigma associated with the disorder. Offering families and loved ones supportive guidance that both acknowledges the difficulties they face and shows how they can be overcome, Porr teaches empirically-supported and effective coping behaviors and interpersonal skills, such as new ways of talking about emotions, how to be aware of nonverbal communication, and validating difficult experiences. These skills are derived from Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Mentalization-based Therapy, two evidence-based treatments that have proven highly successful in reducing family conflict while increasing trust. Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder is an empowering and hopeful resource for those who wish to gain better understanding of the BPD experience--and to make use of these insights in day-to-day family interactions. Winner of the ABCT Self Help Book Seal of Merit Award 2011

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook for Anxiety

Author: Alexander Chapman
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781572249554
Release Date: 2011-11-03
Genre: Self-Help

If you have an anxiety disorder or experience anxiety symptoms that interfere with your day-to-day life, you can benefit from learning four simple skills that therapists use with their clients. These easy-to-learn skills are at the heart of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), a cutting-edge therapeutic approach that can help you better manage the panic attacks, worries, and fears that limit your life and keep you feeling stuck. This book will help you learn these four powerful skills: Mindfulness helps you connect with the present moment and notice passing thoughts and feelings without being ruled by them. Acceptance skills foster self-compassion and a nonjudgmental stance toward your emotions and worries. Interpersonal effectiveness skills help you assert your needs in order to build more fulfilling relationships with others. Emotion regulation skills help you manage anxiety and fear before they get out of control. In The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook for Anxiety, you’ll learn how to use each of these skills to manage your anxiety, worry, and stress. By combining simple, straightforward instruction in the use of these skills with a variety of practical exercises, this workbook will help you overcome your anxiety and move forward in your life.

The Power of Validation

Author: Karyn D. Hall
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781608826254
Release Date: 2011-12-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Validation—recognizing and accepting your child’s thoughts and feelings, regardless of whether or not you feel that your child should be experiencing them—helps children develop a lifelong sense of self-worth. Children who are validated feel reassured that they will be accepted and loved regardless of their feelings, while children who are not validated are more vulnerable to peer pressure, bullying, and emotional and behavioral problems. The Power of Validation is an essential resource for parents seeking practical skills for validating their child’s feelings without condoning tantrums, selfishness, or out-of-control behavior. You’ll practice communicating with your child in ways that instantly impact his or her mood and help your child develop the essential self-validating skills that set the groundwork for confidence and self-esteem in adolescence and beyond. “...There is valuable advice here. This approach takes mindfulness, patience, and a long-term vision, but parents who are able to help their children trust their emotional landscapes will have an easier time of scaffolding to higher reasoning, in addition to more secure relationships with their youngsters. Highly recommended.” —Library Journal, STARRED REVIEW, Rebecca Raszewski, University of Illinois Library, Chicago

Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions

Author: Pat Harvey
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781608824021
Release Date: 2009-11-02
Genre: Family & Relationships

Temper tantrums in the supermarket. Tears that seem to come out of nowhere. Battles over homework that are more like wars. When your child has problems regulating his or her emotions, there's no hiding it. Children with intense emotions go from 0 to 100 in seconds and are prone to frequent emotional and behavioral outbursts that leave parents feeling bewildered and helpless. Other parents may have told you that it's just a phase or that your child needs discipline. In reality, your child may have emotion dysregulation, a tendency to react intensely to situations other children take in stride. Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions is an effective guide to de-escalating your child's emotions and helping your child express feelings in productive ways. You'll learn strategies drawn from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), including mindfulness and validation skills, and practice them when your child's emotions spin out of control. This well-researched method for managing emotions can help your child make dramatic emotional and behavioral changes that both of you will be proud of.

The Mindfulness Solution for Intense Emotions

Author: Cedar R. Koons
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781626253025
Release Date: 2016-04-01
Genre: Self-Help

The Mindfulness Solution for Intense Emotions offers breakthrough, new mindfulness skills and exercises drawn from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) to help you move past harmful emotions. If you suffer from intense emotions, you are not alone. Millions of Americans are diagnosed with emotion regulation disorders, such as borderline personality disorder (BPD) and other comorbid conditions like post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and severe depression. Developed by Marsha Linehan, DBT is a clinically proven, evidence-based treatment for intense emotions that can help you start feeling better right away. This is the first consumer-friendly book to offer Linehan’s new mindfulness skills to help you take control of your emotions, once and for all. In this book, you’ll learn seven powerful skills that highlight the unique connection between mindfulness and emotion regulation. Each skill is designed to help you find focus in the present moment, reduce impulsive behavior, and increase a sense of connection to your true self, even during times of extreme stress or difficulty. You can feel calmer, more grounded, and centered. If you’re ready, the mindfulness practices in this book will help you move away from a chaotic, emotion-driven life and cultivate a focused, intentional one.

Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

Author: Shari Y. Manning
Publisher: Guilford Press
ISBN: 1606234862
Release Date: 2011-08-18
Genre: Psychology

People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be intensely caring, warm, smart, and funny—but their behavior often drives away those closest to them. If you're struggling in a tumultuous relationship with someone with BPD, this is the book for you. Dr. Shari Manning helps you understand why your spouse, family member, or friend has such out-of-control emotions—and how to change the way you can respond. Learn to use simple yet powerful strategies that can defuse crises, establish better boundaries, and radically transform your relationship. Empathic, hopeful, and science based, this is the first book for family and friends grounded in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), the most effective treatment for BPD.

Couples Counseling

Author: Marina Iandoli Williams Lmhc
ISBN: 0615649157
Release Date: 2012-05-14

A session by session guide book for mental health practitioners on how to conduct evidence-based couples counseling. The book guides the therapist step by step through twelve sessions, and covers everything from the very first client phone call all the way through termination.

DBT Principles in Action

Author: Charles R. Swenson
Publisher: Guilford Publications
ISBN: 9781462526734
Release Date: 2016-07-05
Genre: Psychology

The key to flexible, skillful decision making in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) lies in understanding the connections between moment-to-moment clinical strategies and core principles. This lucid guide from leading DBT authority Charles R. Swenson offers clinicians a compass for navigating challenging clinical situations and moving therapy forward--even when change seems impossible. Numerous vivid case examples illustrate DBT in action and show how to use skills and strategies that flow directly from the fundamental paradigms of acceptance, change, and dialectics. Clinicians gain knowledge and confidence for meeting the complex needs of each client while implementing DBT with fidelity.

Behavioral Interventions in Cognitive Behavior Therapy

Author: Richard F. Farmer
Publisher: American Psychological Association (APA)
ISBN: 1433820358
Release Date: 2015-08-01
Genre: Psychology

This book offers a detailed, step-by-step guide to behavioral interventions in cognitive behavior therapy (CBT). This fully updated edition features new chapters on enhancing interpersonal effectiveness, emotion regulation, and navigating difficult therapeutic challenges.

Don t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life

Author: Scott E. Spradlin
ISBN: 9781458755957
Release Date: 2010-05-07

When we are regularly undone by our emotions, we become victims of damaged relationships, trapped circumstances, self-sabotage, and illness. Don't Let Your Emotions Run Your Life offers help to all of us who want to gain the upper hand on our feelings and our lives. Even high reactors, people disposed to experiencing strong, even overwhelming emotions on a regular basis, will find its strategies easy to use and effective at managing frequent emotional flare-ups. This book develops proven DBT techniques into worksheets, exercises, and assessments that show you how to pay attention to emotions when they arise, assess blocks to controlling them, and overcome them to eliminate overpowering feelings. Learn what emotional triggers exist in your environment and become less judgmental about yourself when you do experience a surge. Avoid or reduce the distress that strong emotions cause you. This workbook teaches you to reduce the impact of painful feelings and increase the effects of positive ones so that you can tolerate life's ongoing stresses and achieve a sense of calm coexistence with your emotions.